Nourish your marriage.

One morning 4 weeks ago my hubby and I woke up around 6:00am. We couldn’t sleep after tossing and turning through most of the night so we decided to get dressed and go to IHOP for breakfast. We felt sneaky as we slowly walked out the house, leaving the children and dog sleeping.

We ordered a spinach and mushroom omelette that came with three pancakes, with a side of turkey bacon. We split the breakfast and enjoyed a time of connection. As we sat there, I realized that although we were talking and connecting, we had fell through the cracks. We had forgotten to take time to intentionally nourish our marriage.

We had such a nice time. There were only a few people in the restaurant since it was 7:00am on a Saturday.

It had been a while since we had a real talk about how our relationships with God were going. It was refreshing.

We enjoyed it so much that we did again the following Saturday. We had a refreshing and vulnerable conversation about character things we need to work on individually. The second time we decided to split another omelette.

We are now on week 4. Four omelets, four breakfast dates and I can say I didn’t realize how much we needed this time.

We decided to get up every Saturday morning early and go to breakfast. We want to try all the special omelette’s on the menu, we have 3 to go. So far, my favorite is the spinach and mushroom, maybe it’s because it taste good or maybe is because it represents the time of connection we desperately needed and did not realize.

When Friday comes, I look forward to my one and half pancake, half of omelette, 2 strips of bacon and small cup of hot chocolate. More than that, I look forward to focusing on connecting and tying any loose ends from the week.

We have two more omelets to go. Would we continue to go after we are done, maybe. The third Saturday I was not excited to jump out of bed, its getting cold but I did it. I know I won’t regret it. Not sure what will happened when the omelette list is done. We may choose to have fun building our own omelette. Or we may get busy with life again and stop going. But...one morning, we just might find it hard to sleep again and look at each other and say, “let’s go split a spinach and mushroom omelette” and start over again😊

I share this because during this time, it can be easy to take care of our children, friends, etc. and neglect our marriages, especially if you have being married for a while. Although we see each other more we also have more going on. It can be easy to have the illusion that constant physical contact means we are connected. Our marriage needs to be nourish just like everything else in our lives.

“Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.” 1 Thessalonias 5:11