Thought of the day. #12

I have a need to connect, to be encouraged, to be refreshed…there is nothing wrong with those needs. The problem starts when I assume others should know that about me.

In earlier years of my marriage, this mentality caused me to disconnect from my husband. I was constantly critical, found myself feeling let down, unappreciated, and unseen. 

I intellectually knew it’s ridiculous to expect him to read my mind all the time, but emotionally I was convinced that he could and chose to do nothing about it. 

Unless I communicate my needs in my relationships, I will always be frustrated and possibly become bitter, resentful, and angry. 

I am so grateful that I continue to learn this lesson. It has not only helped me in my relationship with my husband, but my children and friends as well. 

Only God knows what I am thinking. If I can remember that, I will stop placing unrealistic expectations on those around me, instead I will give them the opportunity to meet my needs if they choose to, and if they don’t, I’ll deal with the disappointment. 

“Before a word is on my tongue you, Lord, know it completely.” Psalm 139:4 NIV