Goals needs folks!

January 18, 2025

Goal for today:

1- Watch a movie

2- Rest and Relax.

3- Put the phone away at 12:30pm.

In the morning, I fill out a journal that has prompts. It starts with having me rate my mood, write a positive affirmation, and it has a box to write things I am  grateful for and 3 goals for the day. 

Today, I wrote two goals: watch a movie (It helps me to plan an activity to relax or enjoy since sometimes I can ignore my need for relaxation), and rest & relax. I had a full week, so I needed a mental vacation.

After going back and forth in my mind, I decided to go with my husband to get gas. He wanted to fill up because of the snow forecast. I wanted to be with him and chill in the car. It’s Saturday morning and we don’t get mornings to connect like that so I try to take advantage when we get a chance. I was torn because I was comfortable in my pajamas and I had my goal of resting and relaxing.

I said “I want to go with you but I am not getting out of the car.” I said it twice. He said, “You made that very clear.” He informed me that he will go get gas for one of the cars and will text me when he is on the way to pick up the next one so I can hop in the car. While he was gone, I thought of a few things I would like to pick up since we were going to be at home. I got out from under my nice warm cozy blanket, put away my journal, devotional book and the other things I use for my morning quiet time, and got my jacket. Then I decided to put on my boots instead of leaving on my slippers. My pajama pants were good enough to walk out of the house and since I had a coat on, no one was going to see that I was wearing a pajama set.

Once in the car, I decided to go into one store to grab some stuff, it turned into three stores. We were almost home when our son called to ask us to run an errand. I struggled for a bit as my relaxation time seemed to be getting away from me. 

We got home right at 12:30 and I was tempted to keep my phone to check messages…My original  plan was to have my quiet time, call my mom like I do every morning, check my messages and put my phone away, and then sit and enjoy a movie. But, as I walked into the house, I resolved to try tomorrow. I concluded that since church was moved from in-person to online, I could start over and do it as I planned then. But a little voice in me said “You can do it, so just do it.” 

My son walked downstairs to grab what he asked us to pick up and I quickly pulled out my phone and said, “Please hold this for me for today. I am staying off my phone the rest of the day. Just pass it to me if it rings.” I honestly did not want to do that but I knew that willpower alone wasn’t going to allow me to accomplish that goal today. 

Sometimes we need help to reach our goals and we know it. It takes effort to ask for help.​​ The obstacle in the way is at times we feel like we should be capable enough of accomplishing the goal all by ourselves. 

Working with people reminds me that to reach our goals sometimes we need folks to get to them. Ohh… I like my rhyme: “Goals need folks”

Asking for help is not a sign of weakness.t shows your dedication to the goal you have set and your willingness to reach it. 

The fact is that things get in the way that slowly take us away from focusing on the goals we set, but a helping hand can get us back on track. It’s up to us to seek the helping hand. 

“Two are better than one,

because they have a good return for their labor:

If either of them falls down,

one can help the other up.

But pity anyone who falls

and has no one to help them up.

Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm.

But how can one keep warm alone?

Though one may be overpowered,

 two can defend themselves.

A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” Ecclesiastes 4:9-12